Be a Valentine. Be the Matchmaker.
Grief can feel isolating. In the tender days after loss — and even years later — many people quietly carry heartbreak without a safe place to bring it. This Valentine …
Grieving Your Way Home to Yourself
After my best friend Sheri’s death in high school, I didn’t have a single adult in my life who knew how to respond to my pain or show me the …
Apologies from a Reluctant Blogger
Dear subscribers: My apologies. I haven’t blogged for awhile. That doesn’t mean I take you for granted. Quite the opposite. Every time I get a new subscriber on my blog, …
When Loss Goes on For Miles
It all began when my father announced that he was living and dying with cancer. When we found out, Andrew and I with our two children (who were teenagers then) …
Grieving in All Directions
Grief scatters darkness as a prism scatters light. So, when we respond to grief, we’re forced to take a soulful journey in all directions. No doubt, it would be easier …
“Doing Grief” Wins Coveted Nautilus Award
I'm delighted to announce that my book, Doing Grief in Real Life won a silver medal in the 2023 Nautilus Awards. The Nautilus Book Awards judge independent authors alongside big …
Making Your Grief Useful
Grief. Grieving. What’s the difference? Grief is to grieving as the eye is to seeing, as the ear is to hearing. Think of grief as an invisible organ of perception. …
Laughing in the Face of Loss
Some say that the only way to heal grief is to face it and "move through" the pain. I beg to differ. Healing grief is more of a dance. It …
Griever, Know Thyself
Self-awareness. As adults, there’s no getting around it. You can try, of course, and many of us die trying. So it may be tempting to move speedily through this holiday …
Defining Grief on Your Own Terms
Before you know how to heal your grief, you have to get to know the grief that is yours to heal. Put simply, grief is the spontaneous suffering you experience …